No matter how great your childhood might have been, if you’re alive today you’ve experienced trauma.
Let me explain...
We live in an inherently traumatising, sick society which frankly is not designed to suit or nourish the human spirit.
We live in an emotional dark age where less than a hundred years ago it was acceptable and encouraged to not tell your children you loved them (let alone that women should be submissive to men or that people of colour are second class humans, or that disabled people should be aborted or locked away, or that gay/transgender people are abominations) (and let’s acknowledge the sad truth that a lot of these things haven’t changed…).
Most of our grand-parents or great-grandparents lived through two world wars - ancestrally passed down trauma is a very real thing (which applies to my second point as well).
From a very young age you are bombarded with media that subliminally tells you you’re not good enough as you are.
It’s still the norm to punish ‘bad’ behaviour and reward ‘good’ behaviour (like a dog) as if any child is actually ‘bad’ which creates a self concept around needing to ‘be good’ (familial and societal projection) in order to get love, internalising the belief that love is conditional and you are not inherently deserving or able to receive unconditional love.
It is traumatic to not have our deepest needs met - that being the need we can’t fully acknowledge because we have learnt we can’t have it: the need for unconditional love; to be seen and valued for who we are; to know that we are good enough and worthy just for Being.
We need to wake up to the reality of the great spectrum of trauma that is so insidious it’s actually become normalised.
What we need to normalise is talking about trauma and seeing it for what it is; wake up from our collective apathy and realise we can each make a difference to change things if we are willing to engage with reality as is; only then can we actually create a new reality in which our Being, Spirit and Soul is truly nourished.
With love and compassion for the pain that can come with seeing our trauma clearly.
(Zannah Merricks)
